NACOS 1.1 Understanding personal loss.
Topic #1: Recognizing patterns of grief in congregations and cultures after a tragedy.
Grief is defined as an adaptation to unwanted change.
Grief is always a response to loss, but the loss is not always the death of a person.
Consider your own life (and perhaps that of your family genogram). What are the losses, small and large, throughout your family history?
Beyond the death of persons, consider the variety of other losses that you have experienced.
Some diverse examples of loss from my own life:
My Father’s loss of his father when I was 5 and he was 32.
Relocating in 3rd grade to Champaign; I lost friends, self-confidence, and retreated into reading.
My youngest brother, born 1964 with severe infantile cerebral palsy; I was 9, my father was 37.
My family coped with my brother’s handicap by organizing codependently around his care.
My youngest brother, died very suddenly in 1968; I was 13, my father was 41.
The disintegration of our family and my parent’s marriage afterward, but they did not divorce.
The failure of attempting to be a basketball player; height but no skills or coordination.
Pushed to attend college at EIU, again leaving friends and supportive community behind.
Application to attend the Southern Baptist Seminary rejected – “unable to handle the pressure”
Admitted to that Seminary 1 year later after “playing politics” to be admitted. Idealism lost.
Divorce after 23 years of marriage, 3 sons, for a variety of tragic reasons. (Many losses here.)
Make a long private list of losses from your history and your family history.
ASSIGNMENT QUESTION: (in the comments on Facebook)
From your list of losses, choose one or two which you feel safe sharing with our class in a comment.