Section 1: Communicating Spiritually


A. It is important to evaluate our behavior, particularly with regard to how we communicate with each other, so that the least harm and the greatest good might occur. Communication reveals our emotions and the state of our spirituality. (James 1:26, James 3:5-10, and Matthew 12:33-37).

B. Use this eight point checklist to evaluate what you say: But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, without uncertainty or insincerity (James 3:17).

C. Use this nine point checklist to evaluate how you say it: But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such there is no law (Galatians 5:22-23).

D. Be concerned about an adversarial spirit. Turning people against each other to form groups in opposition is a sign of gross spiritual immaturity, according to 1 Corinthians 1:1-12 and 1 Corinthians 3:1-4. When different sides appear and conflict develops, spiritual immaturity is the cause.

E. As the “anger of man does not work the righteousness of God” (James 1:20), be aware of the presence of anger in yourself and others during discussion. Insist on a cooling off period if anger persists. People who are angry cannot hear what others are saying, so stop until calmness returns. Anger vented upon another person to control what they do or what they say is abusive and a sin against the commandment to love one another (John 13:34-35, 1 John 4:7-8, and 1 Corinthians 13).





[1] The quote is a selection from David O. Kueker’s Fuller Seminary Doctor of Ministry project submitted in September, 2007, entitled Diagnosis, Dialogue, and Decision: A Threefold Process of Revitalization For the Illinois Great Rivers Conference.
It is shared here in recognition of its 12th Anniversary along with comments to update and provide perspective on the material. The original project was a Training Manual/Study Guide of three Seminars supported by three chapters of research and an Introduction. The material is available for download at In 2009 it was provided for purchase as a softcover book entitled Designing Discipleship Systems: Christian Disciple Making For Any Size Church, Any Theology through

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