BOOK THREE – Angel’s Story
THE FIRST PRINCIPLE: Prayerwork
from The One Minute Minister: Restoring Spirituality to Time Management
She took a deep breath and began.
“You see, before I hit bottom, I was married. Then I wasn’t. It’s not a very original story on the surface, and I could have used it as an excuse for years. Two busy parents, one teenage daughter. Two people busy in their careers, and too busy to notice that we were drifting apart. My ex-husband just drifted into somebody else’s life. I was devastated, and for a while I clung to the excuse that I was the wronged woman. It’s so convenient to blame everyone else for our problems.”
“What happened with the church?”
“Well, they weren’t happy, but part of his drifting included drifting out of going to church. Most people saw me as the victim, and so I had a lot of sympathy. As I began to look at my life, however, I started noticing that frequently, when I had a choice, I chose to spend my time doing something without him. I had meetings at night, but more nights than my work actually required. It was just easier to schedule my time to not be with him. And he was the same way, but I had to own my part of the problem. I was using my work, my busyness, to avoid my husband; I made time for our daughter, but I took that other relationship for granted.”
“He did too,” the minister said loyally.
“That’s true,” Angel said. “But it’s my decisions that determine my life, and when I took a good look at my habits of how I was using my time, I didn’t like what I saw. That’s why the first concept is so important to me.”
“You mean to take care of relationships?”
“No,” she said. The first concept is this: when I spend a minute with God, I learn what is important.”
Make a list of the important people in your life.
When you have a choice for something to do do you choose to spend time away from these important people?
Are there people drifting out of your life right now? Or are you drifting out of theirs?
What are your favorite excuses? Who do you like to blame for your problems?
Are you tempted to play the role of the Victim?