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Trauma Bond Addiction

A quote from Patrick Carnes’ The Betrayal Bond: Abandonment by betrayal is worse than mindless neglect. Betrayal is purposeful and self-serving. If severe enough, it is traumatic. What moves betrayal into the realm of trauma is fear and terror. If … Continue reading

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The Twelve Steps – My View

ALTAR: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change… 1. We admitted we were powerless over _____________________ —- that our lives had become unmanageable. 2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore … Continue reading

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Stress has three sources.

Stress has three sources: 1. Lack of predictability 2. Lack of control 3. Lack of outlets for our frustration

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MyRules: #10

Ten Principles for Effectiveness: 10. I will build the Kingdom of God in all my communities. Mat 6:33 But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things shall be yours as well.

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MyRules: #9

Ten Principles for Effectiveness: 9. I will live in the present and enjoy it, one day at a time, forgiving the past and entrusting the future to God. I will enjoy my body and my health; they are a gift … Continue reading

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MyRules: #8

Ten Principles for Effectiveness: 8. I will pray today, and sit in silence with my Savior & Lord. John 10:10 I came that they may have life, & have it abundantly.

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MyRules: #7

Ten Principles for Effectiveness: 7. I attend to my growing edge; I am faithful to myself. What did I learn today? What have I maintained? Mat 11:29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle … Continue reading

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MyRules: #6

Ten Principles for Effectiveness: 6. I seek to live in a synergistic environment which is characterized by high energy, creativity, productivity, quality, enthusiasm, trust, joy, learning and fun. Where are the roadblocks to be removed? Luke 6:38 Give, and it … Continue reading

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MyRules: #5

Ten Principles for Effectiveness: 5. I seek to understand first, and also to be understood, and so live in community. What do I need to hear? To share? When? James 1:19 Know this, my beloved brethren. Let every man be … Continue reading

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MyRules: #4

Ten Principles for Effectiveness: 4. I seek only Win-Win partnerships where I ask my partners to be my friends and to make & keep their commitments. 1 John 4:7-8 Beloved, let us love one another; for love is of God, … Continue reading

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