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Discipline vs. the great time waster.

Quote: Besides, folks like me have a tool set that seems to elude most people these days: Priorities Focus Discipline We’re disciplined about focusing on our priorities and shutting out the noise. We always do what needs to be done, … Continue reading

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TA = TRAUMA ABSTINENCE

TA = TRAUMA ABSTINENCE: Depriving yourself of things you need or deserve because of traumatic acts THERAPY STRATEGIES: Understand how deprivation is a way to continue serving your perpetrators. Write a letter to the victim that was you about learning to … Continue reading

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TSG = TRAUMA SPLITTING

TSG = TRAUMA SPLITTING: Ignoring traumatic realities by dissociating or “splitting” off experiences or parts of self THERAPY STRATEGIES: Learn that dissociating is a “normal” response to trauma. Identify ways you split reality and the triggers that cause that to happen. … Continue reading

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TB = TRAUMA BLOCKING

TB = TRAUMA BLOCKING: A pattern exists to numb, block out or overwhelm feelings that stem from trauma in your life THERAPY STRATEGIES: Work to identify experiences that caused pain or diminished you. Reexperience feelings and make sense of them with … Continue reading

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TP = TRAUMA PLEASURE

TP = TRAUMA PLEASURE: Finding pleasure in the presence of extreme danger, violence, risk or shame THERAPY STRATEGIES: Do a history of how excitement and shame are hooked up to your trauma past. Note the costs and dangers to you over … Continue reading

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TS = TRAUMA SHAME

TS = TRAUMA SHAME: Feeling unworthy and having self-hate because of trauma experience THERAPY STRATEGIES: Understand the shame dynamics of your family. Why was it important to you that you feel shameful? Start reprogramming yourself with affirmations.

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TBD = TRAUMA BONDS:

TBD =TRAUMA BONDS: Being connected (loyal, helpful, supportive) to people who are dangerous, shaming or exploitive THERAPY STRATEGIES: Learn to recognize trauma bonds by identifying those in your life. Look for patterns. Use “detachment” strategies for difficult people. Use a First Step … Continue reading

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TR _____ TRAUMA REPETITION:

TR = TRAUMA REPETITION: Repeating behaviors or situations that parallel early trauma experiences THERAPY STRATEGIES Understand how history repeats itself in your life experiences. Develop habits that help to center yourself (e.g. breathing, journaling), so that you are doing what … Continue reading

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TRT = TRAUMA REACTIONS

TRT = TRAUMA REACTIONS: Experiencing current reactions to trauma events in the past THERAPY STRATEGIES Study ways you are still reacting. Write letters to your perpetrators telling them of the long-term impact you are experiencing. Also write amends letters to those you … Continue reading

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Trauma Bond Assessment

Traumatic Stress Index from The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships by Patrick Carnes Ph.D. The following statements typify reactions trauma victims often have to child abuse. Please check those you believe apply to you. Although the statements are … Continue reading

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