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COGNITIVE DISTORTION #8. SHOULD STATEMENTS: You try to motivate yourself with shoulds and shouldn’ts, as if you had to be whipped and punished before you could be expected to do anything. “Musts” and “oughts” are also offenders. The emotional consequence is guilt. When you direct should statements toward others, you feel anger, frustration , and resentment.
RESOURCES: This is one of ten Cognitive Distortions that can drive us downward into depression identified by Dr. David Burns in works such as Feeling Good and The Feeling Good Handbook. It is mentioned in my handout on PSYCHOLOGICAL TOOLS FOR PERSONAL WHOLENESS, David O. Kueker, Kinmundy/Wesley United Methodist Church in the section entitled 1. THE WAY DOWN.
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