Wisdom At An Alanon Meeting – part one

Earlier this week I attended an Alanon meeting to support a church member going for the first time. It had been quite a few years, but (just as before) the wisdom of a group of people gathered together to support each other under the guidance of their Higher Power was refreshing and inspiring. Here are some bits of wisdom I wrote down that will  benefit me in ministry:

1. The problem is not the alcohol. The heart of the matter is self-centeredness and irresponsibility. Whatever the identified addiction, underneath you’re dealing with a me-holic, after all – me, me, me, inspite of how it hurts people I love.

2. Alanon gives practicality to spirituality. (Reminds me of John Wesley’s intent on “practical divinity” for his followers.)

3. Two things cripple a person, and the 12 steps address them: guilt and bitterness of unforgiven deeds; both are resolved by forgiveness and making amends.

4. “It doesn’t help him for me to be harmed or destroyed.”

5. Alcoholism is an illness; irresponsibility is not an illness. “She doesn’t want to grow up.”

It was time well spent and I appreciate the way that people shared their stories that helped these ideas come into focus for me. Which one speaks to you?

 

This entry was posted in Codependency 101. Bookmark the permalink.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *